“Great leaders are great managers-not just managers of projects or other people but mostly of themselves.”
Self management is the second discipline of extraordinary spiritual leaders that author Reggie McNeal addresses in his book Practicing Greatness.
McNeal catalogues some particularly problematic emotions (e.g., anger, hostility, fear, bitterness) that a leader needs to manage, rather than be managed by. His section on “Grief and Loss” caught my attention. I am working through a vocational change and a ‘death of a vision’. I thought that an acceptable approach would be to replace what was lost with something new. The author cautions against such a simplistic approach and advises that appropriate grieving involves expression, reflection and processing in community.
Managing expectations is also part of healthy self-management. In talking about the expectations others have for a leader, McNeal says, “A leader who shapes expectations remains healthier than one who is primarily shaped by them.” He is not calling for leaders to be completely unmoved by the expectations of others, but over the long haul a leader should be influencing people’s expectations in a way that is in line with the organization’s goals and the leader’s personal strengths and convictions.
Self management also includes staying healthy in body, mind and soul. The author covers some expected health tips but surprised me when he advocated carving out and protecting time to muse about items bigger than the daily to-do list. I recognize that the urgent and the mundane often misplace the strategic and the creative. The author fills this section out by urging leaders to avoid negative people, disorganization, second guessing past decisions and environments that tempt us.
McNeal concludes this chapter identifying two things that if left unmanaged by the leader could sabotage his effectiveness. The first is his mood and outlook; a positive and upbeat mood will have a positive ripple affect, whereas pessimism and anxiety will lead to negative repercussions. The second is money; mismanagement of personal assets tarnishes and impedes a leader’s ability to manage the assets of others.
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